Her: What name should I give it?
Me: I like Harold.
Her: No…I think Diego.
Me: Diego…OK. I like it. Diego and Harold.
We’ve bought furniture and a plant together. Suppose there’s no returning to single-hood. Harold, has to get over his jealously; a bit concerned he may start smoking again.
Speakinga singlehood, a buddy of mine’s newly single. Gave him my usual spiel, which boils down to, No matter how hard it is, why would you want someone that doesn’t want you?
He got his walking papers in fairly harsh way: she kicked him out. And for no other reason than talking with a female friend he’s known for 13 years. Told him to take the high road.
Him: And what’s that?
Me: Leave. And don’t build her up like she was a saint or rip her down like she was a monster. Just leave. If a woman tells you to leave, you get up, pack your bags, and walk out the door. Cut it deep, cut it clean, but cut it.
Him: I’m super busy today, I can’t just pack up and leave.
Me: Cut it quick, cut it deep, cut it clean, but cut it. And don’t try to read her mind like some rapist and say, “Well she really meant…” You can’t assume anything is true but the words that come out of her mouth, which was, “Move out.”
Him: Damn, I guess I’ll have to look for a place.
He moved out that night.
He’s erasing his map – in stark contrast to our other buddy who floated back and forth with his girl for a year. That girl actually ended up marrying the guy she cheated on him for a year and that friend just caused a solid year of pain for himself. This friend, however, sees the writing on wall.
Speakinga seeing the writing on the wall, recently had two clients hand me checks in very different ways.
One paid me a bonus for a job well done; the other paid me 50% of what was agreed upon. Not to get all schoolyard but a deal’s a deal. If I’ve ever learned anything from working for myself for 18 years, when a client hands you a check, you smile, take it, and make a mental note.
It’s all related, y’know? Why stay where you’re not wanted? Anyone that tells you, Move out, doesn’t want you.
Any client that pays you 50% of what you agreed upon doesn’t want or respect you.
Any client that pays you more than you asked does.
Even if you don’t like what you hear, people are telling you stuff all of time.
Location: Sitting in my living room, wide awake at 4AM
Mood: hungry!
Music: you open up the dirty windows, let the sun illuminate
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8 replies on “Why would you want someone that doesn’t want you?”
I needed to read this. I wasn't even having a bad day, but this definitely gave me a boost. Thanks, Logan!
That's really great to hear – these types of things need to be said out loud every so often.
yah, thanks for writing all that. so true so true.
Any time, I wish all my friends and acquaintances were more centered and calm.
Actually, I wish *I* were more centered and calm.
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