We are made in our sleep and by our lonely

Been watching Jeremy Lin and it reinforces one of my core beliefs: that we become who we’re meant to be in our sleep and by our lonely. The world sees the real us when the occasion arises.

Great occasions don’t make heroes or cowards; they reveal them

Buskers in NYC

This fella named Brooke Foss Westcott once said that, Great occasions do not make heroes or cowards; they simply unveil them to the eyes of men. Silently and imperceptibly, as we wake or sleep, we grow strong or weak; and at last some crisis shows what we have become.

This is onea my core beliefs, that we create our three lives in our sleep and by our lonely, and they’re often hidden, many times even from ourselves.

We find out, only at some great calamity, if we’re rubies or rubbish.

Don’t watch sports. At all really – think it has something to do with the fact that no one ever invited me to play.

But I’ve been watching a few basketball games to see about Jeremy Lin. It’s truly impressive.

Think he had suspicions of what he was made of all this time but never knew for sure. He only became who he was meant to be when the occasion finally presented itself. Before then, he kept getting passed over and ignored for years. Yet he kept on going.

This reminded me of something my father told me once when he was a lawyer gutting fish for a living. He said that he knew what he was made of even if others didn’t.

He also told me – at the lowest point of my life – that he’d only be disappointed in me if I stopped.

Y’either keep going or stop because of the suspicions you have inside. For me, there’s no stopping anytime.


And here’s a video from my buddy. I miss making videos myself but I’m stretched pretty thin as it is.

Location: running to meet a client in the Village
Mood: ambitious
Music: you’re on a roll, no one gets it, no one gets it

7 replies on “We are made in our sleep and by our lonely”

Cheer up! All great things takes time. I just ordered your book. You should annouce it on the stuy alumni newsletter. I'm sure stuyvies will definitely support a fellow stuy alumni. You can be the next Brad Meltzer – he's also a JD turned author. Keep writing!

Thanks for all the words of encouragement! Ha, I was the biggest nobody in Stuy so I don't think that would help at all. But thanks for the support, I really appreciate it! I hope you enjoy it and maybe if you do, you'd post a review on Amazon?

I downloaded it over the weekend and finished reading it yesterday.
"The next upcoming Tarentino with words is the the phrase I would sum up the book.
It was very entertaining – action pact filled, lots of cliff hangers as we continue reading more and more for the next chapters, great usage of transitioning between past and present during the storytelling, and complex tough characters that we can't help but root for."

Just saw it, great! I'm so glad you enjoyed it. Now, if it's not too cheeky, could i ask you to possibly do two things:

a) Tell people! I did the giveaway to get word-of-mouth going – I also just dropped the price to $0.99 so that if you did enjoy the book, you can tell others and they can download for next to nothing.
b) Could you write a few more reviews on Amazons about anything? They look at dozens of five-star reviews from reviewers that never review anything else as highly suspect.

Thanks again for downloading and the kind words!

[…] Her: And you? Me: Twice, I think. Her: What happened? Me: The first girl wanted to stay, but couldn’t. I wanted her to stay, too. But wishes are just that. Her: Oh. (later) And the second? Me: She wanted to go, so she left. Her: Did you want her to stay? Me: (shrugging) She didn’t, so it doesn’t matter. People are who they truly are in their quiet moments. It’s only the quiet moments that actually matter. Because we’re made in our sleep and by our lonely. […]

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