Oh, and I have gout
Well, I’ve hit a new middle-aged milestone: I have gout.
Essentially, for almost every meal, I have cabbage, avocados, or spinach and beef, lamb, or sardines every single day.
In fact, I just made the ABFF and the kids some corned beef and cabbage for St. Patty’s this AM.
Never really thought much of this until I woke up in ridonk pain at 4PM the other day.
Not knowing what else to do, I gave Chad a ring.
Him: I’m already on my way.
Now that’s a friend.
On that note, here he is breaking down Captain America: The Winter Soldier.
I hobbled to the doctor’s and, after a buncha questions, x-rays, and whatnot, gout was the conclusion.
Oddly, the reason for it may have more to do with my intermittent fasting per a video my buddy Aric sent me.
All in all, it was not a great day.
The few days before that weren’t any great shakes either.
Me: You did what?!
Son: Are you mad?
Me: I don’t think the word “mad” fully captures the range of emotions I’m feeling right now, boy.
Some people think I push the kid too hard; others, not hard enough. I figure that this means I’m probably doing ok. But we do have these types of convos:
Him: I don’t need to know how to do that, you’ll do it for me.
Me: For now. But you need to learn how to do it yourself.
Me: People are valued for their skills; the more skills you have, the more valuable you are. The less skills you have, the less valuable the world considers you.
If being a parent has taught me anything, it’s a profound respect for my own parents.
I realize now, how difficult it must have been for them as two very young foreigners (20something and 30something) in a foreign land raising three children while being immigrant poor.
I have one kid and live on the Upper West Side of Manhattan and I still feel like I’m struggling.
Yet it’s still some of the most interesting work I’ve ever done. It forces me to question whether or not I truly understand the world as it is.
Him: Why is fire hot?
Me: I never thought about it. Let’s look it up.
On a deeper level, what I see lacking the most in the world is critical thinking, which is analyzing a given set of facts and making sense of them.
The pitfalls are:
- Poor data
- Poor analysis
- Poor conclusions
- Poor actions based on the conclusion
I see people mess up at least one, sometimes all four, at least once a day.
And the biggest problem with people is that they think that the world adjusts to their level of skill, rather than the adjusting their level of skill to the world.
My parents wanted us to get accolades – A+s and Ivy Leagues – and I get that. But what I want for the boy is much more modest, I want him to have general life skills coupled with an ability to critically think.
The most unsuccessful, lonely people, are those that expect certain things of the world and are angry that the world doesn’t match their expectations.
I get that, more than most.
But, at the end of the day, the world doesn’t care what we want or hope, only how we respond to it.
Him: Why do I have to learn this?
Me: Because the world doesn’t adjust to your level of skill. So you have to do it the other way around.
Location: earlier today, by the ABFF’s
Music: I’m the same kid – so why’s the mirror say I’m not? (Spotify)
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