Simple things of kindness
Recently, my past came to visit me and I went to visit my past.
Regarding the former, my buddy Ed came into town with his kid the other day. His son’s heading off to NYU this fall as a freshman.
I met him here via my then-girlfriend, the Doctor. He actually ended up living in my building for a spell, which was maybe 20 years ago?
It’s funny, we used to hang out alla time, but we lost touch after he moved back to Cali. My life is a series of endless venn diagrams.
It was such a kick-in-the-head to see him here with his almost-adult son.
Brought them to John’s Pizzeria at Times Square so they could (a) check it out since it’s in an old cathedral and (b) they wanted really good, authentic NYC pizza, which this definitely was.
The last time I went, it was October of 2017 with Gradgirl. She said it was an awful date – it might have been one of our first – and she wasn’t wrong.
Didn’t tell you about that because I was such a mess back then. Not that I’m not still starkers now.
Do think that, if circumstances were different, she and I might have had something. Maybe even a fatty of our own right now.
Fucking cancer is the awful gift that keeps on giving.
On a related note, it’s funny, for a long time, I divided up my life by the women I seriously dated/cared for.
Everything’s been such a mess since…you know…
Everything and everyone just blends together into a soupy, grey, mess.
Anywho, it was nice seeing Ed and his kid. I joked that, despite us being roughly the same age, I had a second-grader while he had a freshman in college.
Me: Give me a buzz if you need anything. I’ve been here my whole life and I’ll probably die here too.
Him: For sure, thanks! (later) Anyplace else we should head to?
Me: (thinking) Go to Hudson Yards. I always loved that place.
As for the latter, and on the topic of ex-girlfriends and my past, that’s a much longer story.
Essentially, I tried to visit an old version of myself but it didn’t pan out – at all – like I’d hoped. Lemme explain:
It all started when I hit up Blond Banker to see if she wanted to catch a show (totally as friends).
She countered with an invite to go to a mixer with some co-workers of hers for a project that she was volunteering for – out in Jersey City.
Her: I’m going to Barcade tonight. You can come to that if you want
Me: Hmm, ok, I’m down! Any particular dress code or just don’t be a schlub?
Her: Just how you’d dress for Barcade.
Since she wasn’t planning on getting there until after 6:30, I slipped into kali for 45 minutes before I hopped the PATH across the river.
On the way there, I sat down next to this one hulking dude and he turned to me and said, That’s a cool tee-shirt, man.
I got two more compliments before I arrived in Jersey City and one more when I was at the bar.
Man, simple things of kindness really make your day, don’t they?
Me: Get home safe, man!
Him: (smiling broadly) Oh, you too!
The last time I went to Grove Street in Jersey City, was May 5th, 2013 – Cinco de Mayo – almost a decade ago.
Alison and I went there for a chili cookoff and we met up with a couple from my old gym. Don’t think I ever saw them again.
Venn diagrams, like I said.
It hurts because I keep thinking, if Alison was alive, I could ask her questions like what did we wear and what was that game we played?
Do you know how many pictures I have of her that day? Zero. Zero fucking pictures, because she didn’t like being photographed.
I’ll pick this up tomorrow. Suddenly got super tired.
Location: tonight, having my arm relentlessly attacked in kali
Music: God knows it’s not supposed to be easy (Spotify)
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