Being in it
Her: Are things like anniversaries important to you?
Me: (thinking) Hmmm, not particularly. You?
Her: Very. But I get it if it’s not to you.
Me: If it matters to you, it matters to me.
The thing with dating in NYC is that there are (a) so many options that it’s easy to think that there’s something better out there for you and (b) that fact also means that you’re always questioning if you’re being too picky.
Close to two years ago, my therapist told me that I wasn’t giving people enough of a chance, mainly because I go on a single date and then bail.
So, I tried dating several people for longer than I normally wouda.
Everyone was quite nice and each had her definite strong points but I couldn’t shake the feeling that they weren’t right for me.
Enter the Firecracker.
From the moment I met her, I felt like I knew her.
Fast forward a year and we went out the other day to celebrate our one-year anniversary of when we met.
It was sweet that it mattered to her, so I took her out to eat the other night at a Thai restaurant that we’ve both wanted to check out for a while now.
For me, one of the signs that a relationship is struggling is when you spend more time discussing the relationship versus just being in the relationship.
It’s been a long time since I was just in a relationship versus arguing about it.
Of course, she and I aren’t perfect, we do bicker at times.
But, more than anything, we see the world very similarly.
Her: Can we stop talking about the relationship and just be in the relationship?
Me: That’d be great, actually.
Her: I’m not perfect. I’m gonna make mistakes.
Me: No, you’re not perfect. (thinking) But you might be perfect for me.
Her: (sighs, smiles)
Location: yesterday, a snowy slope with four boys, three sleds, and one Firecracker
Mood: so full
Music: I was making jokes and you politely laughed (I appreciated that) (Spotify)
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