Online dating versus offline or regular dating
Went out the other night with my buddy to some local watering holes – the first time in a while. We’re having a mild disagreement about online dating.
The way I look at it, it’s like having a relative named, for example, Aunt eMatch that says, “I’ve got a girl I think you might like.” In fact, it’s better; it’s like Aunt eMatch saying, “I’ve got a girl I think you might like – and here’s her resume, a buncha pics, and a writing sample.”
My buddy says that interpersonal vetting’s the best way to meet someone; can’t disagree with that BUT he also feels that’s why online dating seems to fail – because of the lack of connection, meaning a common friend. But the connection isn’t a person, rather, the stuff you’ve got in common.
When you’re a kid, you think love’s looking at someone and going, You’re so awesome, and she looks back at you and says the same thing. Adults are different.
Adults don’t stand facing one another but side-by-side. It’s why I always say that you want someone on your side.
That, in turn, is from that French dude that wrote The Little Prince: Aimer, ce n’est pas se regarder l’un l’autre, c’est regarder ensemble dans la même direction, which translates to To love is not to look at one another: it is to look, together, in the same direction.
Love’s when you’re both looking at stuff y’love – like a Firefly episode you love, how you want to raise your kids, or your plant Harold -and you go, Do you see what I see? and she goes, Man, I *totally* see what you see.
That’s love. How you get it – online/offline – depends on how life puts it in front of you, but it’s always the same thing.
Location: going to New Rochelle
Mood: insanely busy
Music: look into their eyes, and you suddenly know
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10 replies on “Love is… or Why you should be dating online”
Quite honestly, I've had more luck with online dating than dating through "conventional" means. Same goes for many of my peers, who ended up marrying the folks they met online.
If I can meet many of my friends online, why should meeting a future spouse be any different? But then again, I'm a blogger here talking to another blogger, lol.
I agree – the thing is that you've got to meet people and it's just the easiest and most convenient way to do so.
Yes, we're a bit biased but, while the means of communication are different, it's still about what the other side hears.
gr8 blog dude. 😀 I like it
Thanks for the positive feedback, man! Just curious, how did you find me?
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