Only time will tell what makes you better or worse
Just finished reading Malcolm Gladwell’s latest book, David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits, and the Art of Battling Giants.
Actually enjoyed it better than his other books – which I also enjoyed – particularly because it seems to echo things I’ve always believed to be true. For example, he notes that there’s a difference between:
- Direct hits – where something kills you, literally or figuratively
- Near-misses – where something almost kills you, literally or figuratively, and it’s enough to send you spiraling into despair
- Remote misses – where something almost kills you, literally or figuratively, but it’s far away enough from you to help you become stronger
Although not mentioned in David and Goliath, I think that two quotes best sum up the basic idea of the book:
It’s only with the passage of time that we’re able to see if the remote misses are near-misses and vice versa. Of course, that’s only if you overcome the blow in the first place. It’s not a perfect book – what is – but that rings true to me.
David and Goliath uses a lot of religious references (obviously) in order to show how these ideas have been with us since the early days of humanity.
And whether you believe in the biblical god or not, I’ve always like the story of how Jacob wrestled the angel and the angel was overcome. The angel could easily have destroyed Jacob but allowed him to survive to learn how to survive.
I’m not a parent, but I would like children of my own one day. I’m just not sure how to pass this type of knowledge down.
After all, a parent doesn’t wish troubles onto their children. But it’s only through stress does something become stronger, become anti-fragile.
Maybe that’s why I want them to fence, to wrestle, to struggle. I’d want them to know what it means to get beaten, and then get back up again.
I think that’s why I do what I do. To give myself a daily dose of remote misses and to struggle to get back on my feet.
Location: getting dressed to go struggle for an hour
Music: a rattle and hum; Jacob wrestled the angel, and the angel was overcome
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