There’s something about a walk

84th Street and Amsterdam Avenue in NYC

The day after my last entry, went to see if she was still there – a number of readers and friends sent me several ideas how to help. But she wasn’t there. Checked again the next day and night and then once more two days later.

Suppose I’ll try again this week.

I’m not sure this isn’t a good thing. Cause in my head, someone else helped her out. Maybe some family came? One can only hope.

Life’s hard enough without your people, poison, and pad.


Went for a long walk on Saturday. Part of it was cause I had some work to do in my area, the other part is that I just like to clear my head.

Something about stress simultaneously compresses and elongates time.

For example, I remember that during my last really bad breakup (holy cow, six years ago) that the minutes dragged on like hours and at the end of each day, I thought: Well, made it through another one.

On the other hand, deadlines for work at that time seemed to spring up from nowhere and I’d scramble to get things done.

There’s something about a long walk that evens it all out, if only for just a little bit.

When I was dating a lot, I remember taking the long walk home after a date or a night out. Always said I’d tell you what that was someday.

If I was downtown, it was usually in the LES so that meant walking from the lower east side across either Houston to Canal to catch my ride home. If I was uptown, that usually meant walking from midtown to home.

And when my insomnia was at it’s worst, I’d do the latter in reverse, just to see the bright lights.

Yeah, there’s something about a long walk that evens it all out, if only for just a little bit.

BTW, regular post on on Wednesday but on Friday, I’m thinking of posting a page – especially for men – on how to put up a good dating profile page on Match et al…

Location: the past weekend, all over the UWS
Mood: groggy
Music: Hold on cause the world will turn if you’re ready or not

5 replies on “There’s something about a walk”

oh good it works. i haven't been able to comment on your blog for a while now. every time i tried to post a comment i'd get an error message.
in any case i was thinking about you guys the other day because i started watching these videos on youtube called "sortedfood" where these london bachelors teach you how to cook. then i thought of you and rain and how you were the OGs when it came to bachelor cooking. oh well, there goes your bfi (brilliant f'in idea)

Hey there – I've not *seen* you for a while. Ah, our BFI…

If only (a) we didn't constantly argue about stuff and (b) we had the time to do them. I always think in the back of my head that I should revive them but then I remember all the things I've got to do. PLUS, I'm not a bachelor any more, although Rain still is. So it *might* still work.

also there's this awesome acupressure mat i started using for stress/insomnia. it's called a spoonk (or halsa, heavenly mat, himalaya– there's many brands) and it's got 8000 spikes that target all your pressure points in your body. at first it hurts like a motha, not gonna lie, but after u get used to it, it feels amazing. i fell asleep and woke up the next day feeling refreshed and energized. i can sleep 14 hours and still feel groggy, so this is a first in a very long time. try it…

after not commenting for so many months i feel obliged to get all my comments out at once.

I'm all for trying new things – now you actually sleep on this thing? Hmm, I'll have to try googling it now…

no u don't sleep on it, u use it for 10 min – 40 min (depends on how long you can stand to be on it– pain tolerance, sensitive skin, etc all determine the length of session). but if u happen to fall asleep while using it, it's not problematic. i fell asleep on mine last night, woke up and shoved it out of the way and continued sleeping.

it's only $40. i think it's amazing and i was super skeptical when i first read about it/saw it at whole foods. buying online is def the way to go because the price at retail stores is almost double. two other things i use for sleeping are a sleeping mask and bach's "rescue remedy" which is basically a homeopathic concoction of flower extracts. it helps to keep the hamster in your brain from going into overdrive.

also, no computer/cell phones/ipads/tv at night before bed. the light/emissions from these devices hinders your ability to fall asleep. they say you should stop using these things 2 hours before bedtime. insomnia is sucks. i hope you conquer it soon.

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