The respect of those you respect is worth more than the applause of the multitude
I write mainly because I have things in my head that I need to put somewhere.
But the reason I write publicly is because of three people: Mrs. Meltzer, Dr. Shapiro, and Stewart O’Nan.
The first two were my grade school and high school English teachers. They thought I was good but considering that my classmates weren’t exactly Hemingway, this was flattering but only so much so.
Stewart O’Nan was my college English teacher and he said I was good also – not great, but good. That meant a little more. But it wasn’t until I saw him on talk shows and read book reviews from him it became a source of pride for me.
I’d tell everyone. Like I’m telling you now.
Perhaps he said it to all his students. I like to think he just said it to me.
This fellow named Arnold Glasow once said that The respect of those you respect is worth more than the applause of the multitude.
Man, isn’t that the truth?
On a related note, my wrasslin coach Rene Dreifuss invented and perfected a move called The Rat Guard. It’s the go-to move in our gym.
And this absolutely brilliant and eccentric coach named Eddie Bravo actually made note of it – and my coach – recently on his podcast. Eddie Bravo’s a guy that changed everything about the game of fighting and mixed-martial arts. In fact, in my coach’s video below, which he did years ago, he specifically mentions him by name.
I’ve won a number of awards in my life and have done many things of which I am proud.
But the throwaway line O’Nan said to me as he hurriedly grabbed his stuff and ran out the door 22 years ago at the close of the year, is perhaps one of my most cherished.
It works in reverse too, doesn’t it?
Everyone may say that you’re the best at this or great at that, but if the one person that you value more than all the others says something unkind, the rest falls on deaf ears.
When parents say something to a child that’s cruel, it cuts the deepest.
That’s when you remind yourself that someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business.
Signal versus noise; it’s always signal versus noise.