Heartache or papercuts
With nods to Jaerik and my friend who cares way too much.
I figure at least 20 people hate me in this world. One of them is this old hippie that yelled at me in Cooper Union while stumbling home for having my feet up on a public seat. My feet, I said, with a wink and a smile, are probably cleaner than most people’s butts.
Ass___, she said. To which I shrugged and said, That’s merely your opinion. And why should your opinion matter to me? You didn’t even say hello.
Considering that there are 6,641,114,623 people in the world, the fact that 20 hate me, that’s pretty good. In fact, I don’t have a calculator that can compute such a tiny figure. Try it.
Whatever someone thinks of me is just their opinion. Someone’s else’s opinion should not control your life – it’s a sucker’s bet.
Frankly, it’s none of my business what people think of me. It’s none of your business either.
On a grand scale, wars are fought over opinions. People fly planes into buildings because they have an opinion. Men become stalkers because they have an opinion. Little girls commit suicide because of people’s opinions.
On a more personal scale, you’ll drive yourself starkers caring what people think of you. I wasted my youth and my 20s tilting at those windmills. In this world, you can only ever change things about yourself.
The rest is just heartache or paper cuts.
In other news, I’m sick again. I’m always getting sick. Dammit.
Location: 5:30 yest, going to bed
Mood: sick again
Music: Love me or hate me, it’s still an obsession
15 replies on “None of your business”
"The rest is just heartache or paper cuts." Well said.
Thank you – I try.
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Really enjoy this post, it's a good reminder that came at the right time for me. You were always cool & out of the box when during our high school days. It would be great to catch up with you sometime.
Steven! I'm glad to hear that; part of why I write this blog is to remind me of things I think are important so it's nice to hear that someone else finds it important as well. Thanks!
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