Landslides take us down
Me: I forgot the anniversary of dad’s death.
Brother: I forgot too – until you brought it up.
Me: I feel guilty about that. I feel guilty about everything.
It was the anniversary of my dad’s death this past weekend. I actually went on a hike in Long Island to clear my head that day and somehow forgot it.
It’s a terrible thing, but when you lose someone you love that deeply, you can’t really think of them. You do everything in your power not to think of them.
And yet, late at night, I do. I don’t wanna. Because that gnawing anger and sense of loss is too much to bear and that’s when the insomnia creeps back in.
Two friends from the gym each gave me something to help me forget and sleep, and each worked for a while. But I ran out of one and the other ran out on me. And I’m left with … me.
I get how people become alcoholics or drug addicts. Pain is a difficult thing to bear in prolonged capacity. You blunt it however you can.
Used to be afraid of the dark because I thought I might not be alone when the lights were off.
Now I’m afraid of the dark because I am alone when the lights are off.
Ain’t that a kick in the head?
At least, though, you can scream out, “What the fuck?!” as loudly and as often as you want.
So there’s that.
Him: Why? He would never want to you to feel guilty about that. He’d want you to remember how he lived. Not how he died.
Wonder if my son will think I’m a good dad. Hope so.
Didn’t realize how much my dad musta wanted everything for us and how much it musta killed him that he couldn’t get us much when we were kids.
But he loved us. That was enough. Love’s enough, sometimes.
I get that now.
I get a lotta things now. The past few years have been a landslide of things I didn’t wanna know but now know.
The thing is, landslides take us down and bury us if we’re not careful.
So I struggle for breath.
It’s been over eight years of death, loss, and pain. And I still struggle for breath.
Location: chatting with a new friend on an orange chair
Mood: WTF
Music: Can I handle the seasons of my life?
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