Marriage is not just a piece of paper because we’re not teenagers
I wrote the below a long time ago to a friend who told me she loved her boyfriend but wouldn’t marry him because marriage was “just a piece of paper.”
Let’s put aside all these teenage ideas of love and romance and talk about this like realistic adults, ok?
This fella named Pericles once said, Just because you do not take an interest in politics, doesn’t mean that politics won’t take an interest in you.
Hold that thought.
Yes, you can live without a piece of paper that says you’re married. But you’re gonna need a lot more papers without that marriage license.
- Have a bank account together? You’ll need a piece of paper that says you have access to all monies in each of those accounts.
- Have a car? You’ll need a piece of paper that says you’re allowed to drive it.
- You live in his house? You’ll need a piece of paper that says you’re allowed to stay in it if something happens to him.
- He’s in an accident? You’ll need a piece of paper that says you’re allowed to see him.
You see where I’m going with this, yeah?
We’re talking thousands of different documents – and you’ll also need to predict the future.
Can you predict that you two will be on vacation one day, you’ll both be riding motorcycles, a mudslide comes, kills him, and your passports are in your hotel room lockbox that only he knows the combo for and he put the room on his credit card, so you cannot say goodbye to him at all?
That’s an actual case!
So, without that license – that “piece of paper” you so casually dismiss – each time you two do anything together, you’ll need a different piece of paper.
You also need those papers notarized because the mom/dad/brother/former kid will fight you on it. You need to go to court to prove it’s real. This happens constantly.
Google “stieg larsson girlfriend.” Constantly.
I’m working on something where my client has spent $60,000 to disprove a SINGLE signature on a single doc.
Another true example (and why I’m for gay marriage) an insurance company disallowed a man from collecting the $1 million for insurance for his mate for cancer treatment. He went to court and eventually won – but his mate died in that time.
He didn’t have the right to get the legal grace of marriage. You do.
Look, if you don’t want to get married because of the cost, or because you don’t really love him, or whatever, say that. But don’t say it’s because you don’t need a piece of paper that says you two love each other. We’re not teenagers.
Just because you do not take an interest in
politics, the government, doesn’t mean that politics the government won’t take an interest in you.
My legal $0.02,
They broke up not that long ago
I wrote once that attraction is not a choice. Integrity forces me to say that it’s not a qualified statement: Attraction is not a choice for straight people only.
As for me, I find marriage comforting. It’s nice to know that someone is on your side.
Life is hard enough without someone on your side. Everyone needs someone on their side.
Me: (to wife) Can you help me with something?
Location: getting dressed to see my pop (again)
Music: You’ve got your home of the brave and I’ve got my land of the free
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